I hear this all the time “if you are soft with your horse he’ll walk all over you” or “you are too lovey with your horses, they won’t respect you”. I understand the good intentions behind these comments, but I’m here to tell you that being gentle with your horse does not mean you are a wimp or need to be wimpy. On the contrary! A soft, compassionate herd leader is what your horse desires – notice I said herd leader. Your horse is genetically wired to require a herd leader at all times, even in your herd of two, you and your horse. You can be gentle, loving and I encourage kissing and hugging too, all the while you’ve established your herd leadership.
Being a herd leader means behaving in a horse-like way that invokes your horse’s instinct to recognize you as their herd leader. When I work with a horse for the first time I establish my herd leadership by doing a Wholistic Joining, (not to be confused with Round Penning or Join-Up) – learn how to do a Wholistic Joining by watching the playlist below:
You don’t need a round-pen or large area, a simple paddock can be sufficient. It’s all about controlling your horse’s feet in a herd leader like way to invoke your horse’s instinct to recognize you as their herd leader. It can take just a few minutes or a bit longer depending on the type of horse you are working with, but once you have established your herd leadership it is easy to maintain by teaching your horse healthy boundaries – learn about how to teach healthy boundaries by watching FREE Training the Whole Horse® video series below:
It is a myth that we as humans need to use force, dominance and pain to control a horse – your true desire to be kind and loving and to be loved by your horse is natural to you AND your horse, you just need to learn how to be your horse’s herd leader which is as simple as he who moves the other’s feet first is in control.
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Let me know how I can be of support to you in any way. Missy Wryn